I asked her why the hell she did that and she said “because I am not as busy as he is”. She said he usually comes over at the last-minute and they either order something in or skip it all together. So I said “Well, then he has time to eat, just no time to eat with YOU”.I told her to stop being too available for an unavailable guy. I asked her why she is available for him to come over to her house whenever the mood strikes him when he can’t find time to take her out for a meal? I asked her if he was able to attend that party with her last month and she said no, he had to work.You must come to grips with the very real idea that not everything in life is your fault.
You shouldn't find yourself interrogating your friends or a lady of interest every time you open your mouth to speak. Have the audacity to think differently and start telling people no when it's warranted, or when you really disagree.
The point is to not come off as a d*ck, but going through life without saying no just to please everyone else is what we here in the real world call a cop out.
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Us women want men to say and do nice things for us all the time. In the beginning, when you’re just getting to know each other, guys need to feel a bit — just — of distance between you and them. Because what fires them up is the challenge you present. By creating the opportunity for the guy to chase you, you’re not being mean, or stingy, or doing anything terrible — ask any psychologist and they’ll tell you that men generally respond best to women who behave this way because they need to feel like they hunted you and won you.
Turns out that’s actually not what dudes want, at least at first.You may have heard that making yourself too available can damage a relationship.Perhaps you’ve even decided that the reason a past relationship failed was because you were just “there too much.” However, that might not be the case.It’s not unusual for a person to say that he truly wants to be in an intimate relationship only to find that he’s consistently disappointed and frustrated with love because he’s just not ready for it.To love someone genuinely, you first have to love yourself, notes Dr. If your partner has a secure sense of himself as a lovable person, he’s likely to want you to be available.She told me she wished that she could see more of him but understands that he has a high profile job and that his career is important to him.