While in the relationship, he couldn't see how he was hurting you.
Breaking up gave him the space needed to review his actions or words.
We obsess our way through our hurt, confusion and even anger that’s spawned from the breakup, and most likely end up with completely erroneous conclusions on the matter.
What a dumpee must recognise is that, though it seems like it’s happened “over night” for them, for the dumper it’s been a more gradual process.
Editor's note: Audrey Irvine is a senior assignment manager for CNN.
Her experiences in the dating world inspire her "Relationship Rant" column.
You'll find yourself asking this question quite often if you're still in love with your ex.
This is especially true when your ex is giving hints that he is still interested in you.
Before trying to answer the question of how can I tell if my ex boyfriend still likes me, it's helpful to take a step back.
Examining the reasons why he may want to start dating you again will put his actions in context.
We broke up after the first year as she was unhappy and thought I was cheating on her when I wasn’t.
It later transpired that she had cheated on me but blamed the problems on me as her guilt was killing her.
The end of a relationship, for them, doesn’t necessarily take place when they break up with their partner – rather it is likely that for weeks (possibly months and maybe even years) before they actually end the relationship/marriage, they’re emotionally detaching and distancing themselves.