Sometimes women can get into a crazy pressured situation, especially if there is pressure from the family to get married.
Diana Kirschner Yes, it’s not like this is the one guy I have to marry.
Ugh, but it'd be so much easier to schedule one after the other so I don't have to go home in between. Wait, I wonder if he has information I should know about. One of them is having feelings for you and it is not the one you like the most.
Preferably at the same bar so I could just sit there all night motionless like a beached seal. You can't go to your favorite bar on all your dates because the others might see you there. He really is the keeper to my freaky universe and I should probably tip him more. You know you're going to have to have The Talk with them and tell them you're not interested in becoming exclusive, but also they're really good at going down on you and losing that will suuuuuck. You're having feelings for one of them but you're not ready to give up on your cool new sex cult.
That’s like a sandwich of unbelievable validation and a takeaway. I’m going to be a little hard to win.” Then you will give the nourishing statement again of, “You’re so fun.” What do you think that does to a winner guy?
On the second date, you tell them in a very special way. Winner guys don’t want things that just fall in their hands.
Great, now I have to find multiple destinations in completely different neighborhoods so I don't accidentally overlap and then have to have an awkward exchange in the middle of the street. I kind of like one of them, I do, but I also currently like boning multiple randos more. Making sure one hookup isn't leaving things at your place that another hookup could find later.
Plus, isn't it better that I'm not committing to someone I'm not sure about than to commit too soon and still reminisce about rando boning? Aww, this love note you left on my pillow in the morning is completely cute but now I have to hide it in an old grocery bag I'll shove in my closet so the person I have coming over in an hour doesn't get offended by something they technically don't have any right to be offended by because it's only our third date. It is one thing for me to be dating multiple people, but I am supposed to be the most incredible person you have ever met, so much so that you cannot even fathom ever dating anyone else again as long as you live!
It Speeds up the Process of Meeting the Right Person Some people go on a first date and, wow, the magic and the sparks are there immediately.
But for others, they have to date someone many times, maybe even over weeks or months, to know whether there’s chemistry in the air—and they may need to date several people before they finally feel that “click.” If you immediately exclude all other guys or gals from the moment you have your first lunch date with someone until his or her annoying laugh causes you to bolt two months later, you may have to go through several mini-relationships in a row before you’re done. Going on dates with a few different good candidates around the same time helps you find out fast who’s wrong, without forcing you to wait and wait and wait to find out who’s right.
Most women say, “I can’t even get one good guy to date.” In Find Your Soulmate, I tell you how to get many good guys to date.