In the late 1800s, these courtship rules were completely upended by shifts in the economy.
According to Weigel, economics and courtship are closely linked, so as America became more and more urbanized, and more and more women entered the workforce, it became more and more difficult to keep courtship “in the home.” And so, dating as we know it, with men and women interacting in public spaces, was born.
Women and their mothers were what Weigel calls the “hosts” of the courtship, and it was socially unacceptable for a man to ask a woman out unless she showed that she was open to his attention.
Courtship also typically happened in private spaces and was supervised by parents or other authority figures.
And in modern times, power is usually associated with financial resources.
In cross-class marriages, one partner will usually have more money, therefore more options and, almost inevitably, more power in the relationship.
Weigel says that the concept emerged around 1896, when the term was first used.
Before that there was courtship, which, at least for the upper classes, typically took the form of something out of a Jane Austen novel.
More money often means more power Though the idea of more money equaling more power in a relationship seems like a bad after-taste of nineteenth century Utilitarianism and the materialism of the Industrial Revolution, nevertheless the economics of relationships continues to be an ugly fact.
Rarely is any marital relationship completely even in its power-sharing dynamics – almost every marriage has a partner who is empowered to take more important decisions than the other.
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This imbalance of power may not have been problematic in times when marriage was not supposed to be a relationship between equals – in patriarchal societies, it was accepted that the male partner would wield more sexual, economic and political sway over the female partner in all institutions ranging from law, medicine, governance to family and marriage.