And that leaves a lot of room for misunderstanding and miscommunication.In her book, Ariel provides wise advice and practical exercises to help you improve your relationship and overcome common obstacles. With age and experience, it’s sometimes harder to “get back out there” and try the dating scene again.
Generally, this is because interacting socially is the most difficult part of having Asperger’s.
When it comes to dating, not only is it hard to meet someone you might want to date but when you do it’s even harder to know what it takes to make that date successful.
It is not your partner’s fault that he doesn’t understand certain social expectations, just as it is not your fault that you don’t understand how the pipes in your house work.”2. If you don’t know much about AS, it’s easy to misinterpret your partner’s actions and think they don’t care about you.
Educating yourself on how AS functions can be a huge help in better understanding your partner and feeling compassion toward them.
'We spend a lot of time feeling smug,' says Sarah, 'because we see other couples who don't look very happy.'In a few days, though, Keith will drive back to Wickham, Hampshire, 50 miles away, where he lives alone and works as a computer programmer. Despite meeting five years ago, they won't 'progress' as other couples do. Although there's only a year between them, at 39 Keith is so gangly, gawky, boyish and cute that he could be ten years younger than he is.
Yet Sarah - who had a child at 19 and has two marriages behind her - is confident that few women could put up with him. The couple met through internet dating and the first stage of their relationship was fiery and fraught. He'd plainly state that their blissful weekends were enough for him, that he'd never live with her or even move nearer.
He's gentle, unworldly, highly attentive and charmingly old-fashioned. The very things that make Keith so attractive to Sarah are symptoms of Asperger's.
Anna Moore meets the couples living with this surprisingly common condition Keith has just arrived at Sarah's home in Hove and they're clearly delighted by the prospect of the next few days together.
However, in order to pursue either or both, people with Asperger’s Syndrome generally have to contend with extra challenges: People with Asperger's traits have been accused of not having feelings or being unable to express emotion, like the "Star Trek" characters, Mr. And so this expression may be misunderstood, misinterpreted, or even ignored by their partners and friends — particularly if the expression lacks the embroideries of "sentiment." So it is often said that the Aspie lack of emotional and social skills can be a barrier to intimacy or at least to .