Too often, though, their divorcing parents reach out to them aggressively and drag them into the fray. I said a quiet prayer for both of them, and especially for Ted.
Parents of adult children don’t seem to recognize any boundaries here.
Often one spouse will move quickly and shamelessly to line up allies among the adult children, telling them all the transgressions of the other parent throughout a lengthy marriage.
Now 38 years old with a family of her own, Melissa says she never recovered from her parents' split.
Melissa's mother, Rosemarie, still gets emotional when she talks about the divorce.
After our shows on children and divorce, we received thousands of e-mails from adults who still feel the pain of their parents' divorce.
When Melissa was 11 years old, her parents divorced.
Sometime after parents separate and often before they divorce, at least one begins to date.
That's generally healthy for the adults; it means they're moving on to the next phase of their lives. Marilyn daughters, Shana, and twins Alison and Rachel, were 4 and 19 when she and their father split up after almost 27 years.
It is rarely easy for children to witness their parents dating.
Parents may enjoy the courtship process, but children may worry about how the process will change their lives.
It was more than a year before she was ready to date.